Sometimes finding the right thing to say can be hard but you don’t have to have all the right answers. Most people are whole and capable people, able to find their own answers within. Social working has a touch of the traditional coaching model within. The model highlights the client capabilities and resourcefulness. You work as a guide through their own thoughts. Here are 10 questions to ask your clients when you have no idea what to say.
1) How can I make our time together valuable for you?
2) Tell me about you on your best day/worst day?
3) What is your definition of success?
4) What legacy will you leave when your’re gone?
5) Imagine that you weren’t scared, what would you do?
6) What do you hope your friends/family/children to say about you?
7) If you were to keep doing this, what do you think it might cost you?
8) Who’s life are you living?
9) Tell me what you think I should ask you right now?
10) Silence…. Just be comfortable with sitting in silence.
These are just a few questions to ask you clients. Sometimes social workers feel like they have to have all the answers but there is values in help clients understand that they can and will do this with their own capabilities. Building confidence and establishing a level of understanding with your client will create a type of working relationship that facilitates the kind of change that we want to see. I’ll be posting more soon.